Torch Light...Rare Species.....

Hope y'all had a lovely weekend. My weekend was rather ..hhmmmmm..how do i describe this weekend....eventful, disturbing, dramatic ..ok y'all should pick one.

So I attended my first wedding in this state (not telling...lol)...let's just say if you were looking to compile a list of not-to-dos for a wedding, this wedding was ripe. I left there convinced that i will have to play an active role in my wedding (previous plans had me flying in on the day of my wedding, driving to church with my groomsmen and leaving with my bride...hahahah). I really don't feel like blogging about this wedding ..i am trying my best to forget it as soon as possible cause if by Thursday, i still feel the way i feel right now, i won't be attending my second wedding in this state this coming weekend. If i manage to attend the wedding this weekend, i guarantee y'all one thing... I ma going there with my own Microphone even if it's going to be battery operated. I mean the MC this weekend was horrific..glorified mess....He is the kind of dude one would recommend getting a license before attempting a joke....man i have never seen an audience with such a straight face for three hours straight... i mean it was frustrating...if this weekend's host is anything like him, i am starting a reality show right there!

Anyway moving away from weddings...i had an interesting phone call this weekend (Sunday to be exact). I heard from a friend I hadn't seen in 8 years (we live in different countries)...It was nice catching up on old times but the conversation left me worried, a few more strands of grey hair, lost voice, more wrinkles but i'll still take her call the next time she calls...Let me give you a brief Bio of the babe... she's about 27, pretty, funny, Born Again, educated. Lets call her Mgbo.
Do you have some friends you probably have lost contact with over the years but you could bet anything that by now they'd be married? yeah? Well Mgbo falls in that category... I remember the last time i saw her, she had a couple of guys on her case. She was bubbling for God back then... she always seemed assured that all will be well.

Well 8 years on Mgbo is still single...from her story she's been through quite a bit, experienced different types of men and has decided to move back to Nigeria, in the hope that she'll find a better man back there.

What is this latest craze? she isn't the first babe that i've spoken with of recent who've decided to move back home in order to find their "mr. right". I know a couple of girls who were actually in relationships here, told their boyfriends they were visiting nigeria for one reason or another, returned engaged, married or have decided not to return.

Mgbo is of the opinion that guys out here (especially in the UK and US) are just looking to play. She said guys aren't looking to settle down these days, they just want a play thing (the way she said it was hilarious)...I argued otherwise....

I agree there are a few guys out there who are only looking for playmates but i believe there are quite a number of good men out there, looking for a good woman to settle down with but you can’t go to a meeting in hell and expect to find an angel in attendance. The question i keep asking is..where are you searching? what is it that you are searching for? and who guides you through your search?

Talking to Mgbo, i expected her to tell me she had dated a number of born again brothers and they were all a mess...funny thing is that wasn't the case…she doesn’t find the guys in church particularly attractive…she agrees that some are intelligent, burning for God but they don’t have that “thing”. I immediately remembered what a friend once told me "girls are attracted to bad boys or bastards" (direct quote). So I asked her where she finds the guys she attracted to and her list left me laughing but on the other hand feeling bad about the situation... "Its funny how even people who consider themselves "saved" still fight with the word when it comes to picking a life partner. Her example of a place where she finds the type of guys she’s attracted to led to my decision to blog about this…She’s determined to marry a naija guy…most of the naija guys that she’s attracted to, she meets in the clubs. The problem is all the guys she’s met in these settings are either not saved and as a result she’s had to compromise one too many times or they aren’t into “saved”/ church girls.

I’ll like to know what you all think…do you really believe good men and women are hard to find or do you agree that it’s based on your standards and where you look and what you are looking for?

In other news....

My cooking journey has commenced in earnest and our next mission is the famous "Egusi soup" i'll attempt cooking it with no help whatsoever, fire department on speed dial and will drafted. Will post the result or leave a note for whoever finds me to post the result...lol