Be careful what you ask for!!!

My intention was to put up the post about the storm (read my last post) but I haven't had the time to actually put it together the way I'd really like to present it and besides quite a lot has happened between then and now. So look out for that post probably over the weekend or early part of next week.

This past weekend was an experience for me on so many levels. Early last week, myself and MISS decided to go on a road trip...the initial idea was to rent a car and just drive till we got tired, find a place to rest and then drive back the next day... For those of you that know me well, I am not the most spontaneous dude out there but as you can see, MISS is having a great impact on me...we just think up crazy things and actually do them...I have been forced to try out new things e.g. food (I don't play with my tummy but it's been really interesting)... As I type, I am recovering from a meal I had last night that didn't go down well with my tummy...Let's just say my restroom has been blessed by my presence more times than I'd like to count ..lol...ewww!!!

So back to the road trip...So the idea was for us to get to know more about ourselves on the trip ... get to ask questions and have those questions answered... Now prior to driving out of town, we had an issue we needed to resolve... for some strange reason, I knew there was something amiss and I was determined to use this trip to get to the bottom of it...So with a little persuasion, she finally opened up to me..."There is someone else in the picture"... At this point we were out of town already...turning back was out of the question...I was getting what I asked for! I guess my concern was could I handle the news? Anyway I decided there was no turning back...this trip was going to end in one of two ways...We sit in silence throughout the trip and when we return we go our separate ways or we talk about things, regardless of what we say or hear, have a blast on this trip. So as she continued to open up, I found out I was in the middle of a hot competition, I had no clue I had been enrolled in...this other dude seems determined to win her heart.


The last time I competed for a woman's heart was about 9 years ago (my ex)...I remember when I met her, there was some dude on her case already and dude was making some serious headway. I remember the crazy things I did in order to get her to give me a chance...but that was back then...I was much younger, crazier and looking for my next play. I was willing to do anything and everything to win...ahhh you'd hear me on the phone speaking to lyrical veterans, getting correct raps to use...I fell in love with poetry back then cause of the amount of time I spent trying to come up with creative ways to win her heart...We'd go dancing and I'd pull out all my dance moves, from James Brown to Bobby Brown and even moves that hadn't been created... You'd think I was heading into a boxing match with the way I'd prepare each time I had to see her...remember that scene in the Rocky movies when he starts to train for the big fights? Yeahhhh that was me....sit ups, stretches, the works!! lol... Now you expect me at this age to return to that point? fa fa fa fowlllllllllllllllllllllllll!!lol... It's at this point I realized I had become lazy when it comes to the matter of the heart... My ex would swear I was romantic but I think after we broke up, I threw romance away... I guess at that time I felt if romance couldn't keep us together, it's effect or need in a relationship or getting into one was largely over-hyped... At that point, I decided that a lady either liked me or she didn't and I wasn't going to relive my youth in order to win her heart...Let's just say this partly explains why I haven't had a successful relationship ever since I broke up with my ex...I haven't given my all in my pursuit.

So how did I react when she told me there was someone else? I must say I was taken aback... Clearly I'd be stupid to think such a fine babe wouldn't have toasters but it wasn't something I had given a second thought to...my first instinct I must admit was to run away, give in and just walk away (I justified this by remembering something I've heard many times..."what's yours will never miss you") but then it quickly dawned on me that anything that is worth having, is worth fighting for and that I could actually lose what is intended for me if I take it for granted. So without further ado, gym shoes on, the Rocky theme song playing, an imaginary pet dog named Bubba, I got back into the game.

So our drive took us to a beautiful city (I can't mention the city...I'd hate for her to find my blog..at least not now...lol). We toured the city, took photographs, talked more... ate a lot and discovered a lot... She tells me the trip was a 9 on a scale of 10 and I must admit the feeling was mutual. I rediscovered my MOJO...romantic ideas kept spewing non-stop...sad thing is the babe isn't the romantic kind as such some of my moves went unnoticed...lol...

One of the things I discovered on this trip was a cafe ( I can't share the name just yet for obvious reasons...lol)...they have the best Chicken Salad sandwich ever!!! But that wasn't my main discovery...what really got me about this cafe is the way they shared their belief through the atmosphere and their menu... The owner is a Christian and not ashamed to show it... I plan to make another trip out there...Hopefully get to speak with the owner about franchising her business ( Yeah yeah yeah... I am all about business)...Starbucks be very afraidddddddddd...be very very afraidddddddddddd!!!

Our drive back was pretty uneventful except for the fact that for the very first time in a long while, I knew I gave it my best...I knew I went out of my way to unselfishly ensure she had a blast...for the first time in a long while, I rediscovered my romantic side and whether she decides to be with me or be with the other guy, this side of me is going no where!!! You know many a times we are told that people come into our lives for either a reason or a season...For now I can confirm she was definitely sent for a reason...to restore my love for romance and everything romantic...As for the season, we'll have to wait and see.

I'll be heading out of town towards the tail-end of this week (Alone this time...business not pleasure...lol). To another state I've never been to...I am really excited about this trip...why? Check out my next post to get an answer.

Until then, I'll leave you with this

Romance isn't all about diamonds or the expensive things money can buy (those are also good)... it's actually about going out of your way to think up and put into play little things that people hardly pay attention to... it's taking yourself out of the equation and only concerning yourself with what your partner desires..what will ultimately make them happy...it's bringing a smile to her face...it's causing her to blush...it's giving her a new spring in her step...it's making her feel and know that at that moment, nothing and no one else in the world matters...it's causing her to laugh and at the same time wish no end to the moment...trust me when you are able to accomplish this, you the giver/doer will gain the greatest satisfaction ever...