What a weekend!
Hey Peeeepssssss.....wazzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzupppppppppppppppppppppppp? How are you guys holding up? hope everyone is doing well... well I am taking a break from my thank-a-ton to post this blog cause I found what happened this weekend particularly interesting and worth blogging about...Before I delve into my story, a friend called my attention to my thank-a-ton and is offended they haven't been featured yet....let me be clear oooo ...the list is in no order... When I wake up and I look at my screen, I blog about the first name that comes to mind...which could greatly be based on my interaction with their blogs the night before or the fact that I have been able to put enough data of thanks on them...so no offence oooo abeg....
Anyway on my way back into town, I got wind of some controversy my comment on a blog had caused...it's funny cause time and time again, I read my comment and couldn't understand what the fuss was...I actually had to get an unbiased opinion from a friend (lol) and she couldn't figure out what the big deal was but I chose to apologize because it wasn't anyones fault but mine... I broke a cardinal rule of mine...view some blogs but never comment! Anyway the harm has been done and quite frankly I could careless at this point...One piece of advice to people...the minute you put yourself out to be criticized, be prepared to deal with all manners of criticism...you can't pick and choose what opinions you welcome (but hey I almost forgot ...we are Nigerians! that's right...freedom of speech doesn't exist). This episode makes for a perfect segway into my weekend gist.
As usual let me make this clarification...I make no excuse for what I choose to blog about or my opinion on the topics I choose to post (however myopic some self-acclaimed, blog commenting genius might feel)... also at no point have I portrayed myself as a saint, neither do I want to be perceived as one... I choose to write about topics that impact my style of thinking or living. This is not intended to be a generalization but rather an insight into my world and experiences.
How things have changed.... I continue to feel like a relic in this modern world... Sex after marriage has become soooo unpopular in our society today that those of us that believe in it almost have a problem stating it for fear of being perceived as a queer. I remember recently sharing this with a babe and without hesitation she stated "there has to be something wrong with you!"... The more I experience this the clearer its become...the signs of times are evident.
Previously boy meets girl, girl seeks to protect herself so she makes it clear that she doesn't believe in sex before marriage. The boy sits back and works out a strategy, on how to get the babe into bed...These days its totally different...you tell a babe that you don't believe in sex before marriage and she feels you are either gay or you are hiding something or probably sleeping with someone else.
What has brought about this sudden change? Do people feel without sex they can't have a successful relationship, is it the fear that you might not be sexually compatible with your partner? wharrrrrrrrrrrrrris going onnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnn?
I truly tried defending myself but it was tough...my tight fitting jeans, colorful combos, talk of manicure and pedicure, offer to help loosen braids didn't help at alllllllllll.....
So familia really what do you think is the reason for this latest phenomenon?
Anyway on my way back into town, I got wind of some controversy my comment on a blog had caused...it's funny cause time and time again, I read my comment and couldn't understand what the fuss was...I actually had to get an unbiased opinion from a friend (lol) and she couldn't figure out what the big deal was but I chose to apologize because it wasn't anyones fault but mine... I broke a cardinal rule of mine...view some blogs but never comment! Anyway the harm has been done and quite frankly I could careless at this point...One piece of advice to people...the minute you put yourself out to be criticized, be prepared to deal with all manners of criticism...you can't pick and choose what opinions you welcome (but hey I almost forgot ...we are Nigerians! that's right...freedom of speech doesn't exist). This episode makes for a perfect segway into my weekend gist.
As usual let me make this clarification...I make no excuse for what I choose to blog about or my opinion on the topics I choose to post (however myopic some self-acclaimed, blog commenting genius might feel)... also at no point have I portrayed myself as a saint, neither do I want to be perceived as one... I choose to write about topics that impact my style of thinking or living. This is not intended to be a generalization but rather an insight into my world and experiences.
How things have changed.... I continue to feel like a relic in this modern world... Sex after marriage has become soooo unpopular in our society today that those of us that believe in it almost have a problem stating it for fear of being perceived as a queer. I remember recently sharing this with a babe and without hesitation she stated "there has to be something wrong with you!"... The more I experience this the clearer its become...the signs of times are evident.
Previously boy meets girl, girl seeks to protect herself so she makes it clear that she doesn't believe in sex before marriage. The boy sits back and works out a strategy, on how to get the babe into bed...These days its totally different...you tell a babe that you don't believe in sex before marriage and she feels you are either gay or you are hiding something or probably sleeping with someone else.
What has brought about this sudden change? Do people feel without sex they can't have a successful relationship, is it the fear that you might not be sexually compatible with your partner? wharrrrrrrrrrrrrris going onnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnn?
I truly tried defending myself but it was tough...my tight fitting jeans, colorful combos, talk of manicure and pedicure, offer to help loosen braids didn't help at alllllllllll.....
So familia really what do you think is the reason for this latest phenomenon?
posted by Miguel @ 12:27 PM
14 Comments:
At 10:11 AM ,
The Life of a Stranger called me said...
me I don't know - in order not to sound so spiritual you have to let the Holy Spirit convict people.
Even though you somehow think what you are doing is wrong, u still have to justify that you are right - hence why people encourage themselves of their right. Even though its so obvious to them that they are wrong.
So no, you are not the only one thinking like this, its just that many are used to doing it a certain way they dont think it could possibly be wrong.
Have a blessed week.
At 2:54 PM ,
Cherub (former Bijouxoxo) said...
*Winking* Miguel are u sure u are really leaving blogsville? Like winking will have any effect on u o!
LOL @ "my tight fitting jeans, colorful combos, talk of manicure and pedicure, offer to help loosen braids didn't help"
On the real tho, it's funny and sad at the same time. My stance is according to biblical injunctions, and most folks think it's b'cos one is tryna be self-righteous, holier-than-thou, and other names.
The fact that u're having pre-marital sex doesn't mean everyone is and that gives u no right to point accusing fingers or try to find faults (it goes both ways). But like LOASCM said, let the holy spirit convict each person. I know where i stand on this subject and that's what matters.
To each is own.
At 4:45 PM ,
Anonymous said...
**(not so) patiently waiting for my exclusive write-up. my dedication. my...thank you!
ok fine, i know you're bugged down with work-- so simply copy and paste what i sent you via email.
lol.
At 8:20 PM ,
ThatGirl said...
Hey, its not just you! I tell people my stand on these issues and its like 'are you ok? what world do you think you're living in? some even think maybe I've been rejected or something like that...LOLzzzzz. These are the final days really and prophesies are just coming to pass, too bad people who don't know 'the truth' (not wanting to use the word "ignorant"...lol) have allowed themselves to be carried away. Pple have all sorts of reasons and will always want to find the 'right' in their 'wrong' like LOASCM rightly said. Your offering to loosen braids doesn't make u weird at all...lol. I know a NIGERIAN man that helps his wife with her hair, that, to me is being kind. like the song in naija says, abeg "LET THEM SAY...". have a blessed one!
At 10:42 PM ,
Naijadude said...
Hmm I feel you on that bro! In the first place, let me laugh at "my tight fitting jeans,......" LMAO
But on the real, when one try to bring up the subject, it all comes with all sorts of condemnation, worst ppl take it personal. I have experienced it from both sides, but like LOASCM says, you just have to let the Holy Spirit convict people. rather than getting into the convo with them, that brings up the self-righteous personal attacks.
World is so turning into the opp. of what our parents know of it. but ooh well....
At 11:46 PM ,
Naijadude said...
Sir, I couldnt find no email link, but well I got it on my blog already!
Thanks
Have a great one!
At 1:32 PM ,
Omojesu said...
You are not the only one thinking this way and it is unfortunate that very few people do think this way. I remember a conversation I had with a male friend about a year ago about the same issue. His question to me was what about the person you are with and I told him if he really wants to be with me, he would wait. Few months ago, I met a guy and at one point told him about it, he said he couldn’t go without having sex with his girlfriend and I did let him realize it was not about him waiting it is about him thinking it is wrong and a sin. My point is we tend to put others first, what they think and would say about us whereas God should be first and if it is right in his sight. 2Cor 6:14 says it best “Do not be unequally yoked with an unbeliever.” If you believe something is wrong but in a relationship with someone that sees it differently then you are no different. I am not perfect in any way nor a saint but just trying to make my path right with God. The only successful relationship is the one built on a solid rock, which is God’s foundation, and I don't believe it is about sexual compatibility. Your tight jeans and colorful combo, manicure and pedicure, lolll. Well there is nothing wrong with a guy taking care of himself. Stand your ground and I have to say I love your blog it is inspiring.
At 2:18 PM ,
Daddy's Girl said...
Miggie, reading this post made me smile. As you will have discovered if you read the blog in question today, I created the fictional 'person' you criticised and believe me, 'she' was not offended. 'She' even started calling herself 'the flip flopper' in her comments! But it was only natural and understandable that the show host was being protective of her guests and wanted to be sure that none of the people who were helping her with her gig got offended. So it was not as serious as you apparently thought, ok? It was a game. 'She' really wasn't offended. So no 'harm' was done at all (I know you said you could care less if any harm was done, but just thought I should clarify).
Incidentally, you jumped to the wrong conclusions about 'that chick'. Can't say I blame you totally, because there was some innuendo. It would be easy to conclude that 'she' compromised, but as one of the other commenters realised, 'she' was not promising what some people thought 'she' was. But all that one na past tori.
Now to the subject of your post: about premarital sex, it's one of those things, the world is never going to accept or understand it. The world is so used to its system than anything contrary has to be explained away as abnormal, or gay or whatever. No problem - it's expected. You will just have to hold on to your values (even if you're all alone) and stay strong. As you know, what's wrong will never be right, regardless of what anyone says. The Bible has the final say. Thankfully, the Lord gives strength to us all. Peace out.
At 2:55 PM ,
Anonymous said...
how come im not aware of the hullaballoo on some blog, i would like to know oo. daddy's girl writing codes with quotes all over...hmm! miguel, u dey fear to talk the blog? nice post by the way.
At 4:30 PM ,
Miguel said...
@TLOASCM ...lol "in order not to sound so spiritual you have to let the HOLY SPIRIT"...my dear you got me reeling...we are what we are and we can't escape it...lol..
@Cherub...man..dont mind the harrers... my rainbow coalition shirt...I totally agree with your point. Meanwhile we need to gist about TERC..
@anonymous1: if I catch you...ma begi fun e
@Zioner...wise words...I was full of praise hearing you speak @ the TERC fellowship...May God reward your steadfastness.
@Naijadude...your words hold truth. By the way Oga mi abeg i no be Sir oooo abeg...actually thought I was reading the wrong comment box...lol
@Omojesu...Wow! you hit a point I was hoping to hear... "it was not about him waiting it is about him thinking it is wrong and a sin". It reminds me of a question I ask why do you choose not to sin? is it because you fear God or because you love God? thanks for your insight... don't mind these people that complain about my dressing...though I must confess i walk into interviews and the interviewers give me this look like hmmmmmmmm...lol
@ daddy's Girl...my dear...I am truly sorry..my comment wasn't intended to offend the bachelorette in question (especially not you ...lol...yeah I suck up well)... It's past now and all is well...I really appreciate your coming on here...it takes a bigger person and I duff my toupee (lol) to you.
@anonymous2: I'll see you in 30 minutes...hmm..make that 1 hour ..traffic here is terrible... u berra call the cops! ...lol...
At 11:58 PM ,
Ms. May said...
Hey honey.....jare, you're just a metrosexual and that's okay. LOL. No mind them. If you started looking jala jala they would talk too. Can't please everyone. And a man's hands in my hair....heaven! LOL. As for the sex thing....I admire anyone who has the strength of will to do that. It is always a good thing to wait if you can. ALWAYS. And while it is God's will to want us to keep his temple holy, I also believe that it is just a different experience if you have that one thing to share with and give to the person you truly love, and will spend the rest of your life with. I have learned that the hard way. And ladies, it is so true that if he really wants you he WILL wait for you and not just WAIT but encourage and support you through that process because it WILL be hard.
And Miggy, let me not hear that you're in my area and you didn't holla o!
At 5:10 AM ,
LondonBuki said...
Exaclty, you're a metrosexual! Don't mind them jare!
As for that comment, the host was trying to make sure she addressed everyone who said something about sex... I hope you've put it behind you cos it was not a personal attack... Se you are still checking the show out...?
At 8:08 AM ,
Miguel said...
@Ms. May....I'll be flying in on Monday...but will call you with details...plan to set up a couple of dinners and outing so be energized oo and get permission from oga!
@Londonbuki...my dear I still check out the show....I didnt take it personal but truly feel there was more to it than that but its well. so tell me which bachelorette are you? let me Adedibu the process.
At 11:11 AM ,
Proudly Foodie said...
The world is messed up! Worldliness is on the rise. Satan is reigining in people's lives through the lust of the flesh, and it's almost a taboo to frown at premarital sex. The world has turned upside! Many people are morally decayed.
To piggyback your remark, Miguel, on why we refrain from sin: I pray that God will elevate all believers in Christ in Jesus to a realm whereby we will eschew sin simply because we HATE IT, and not because God would chastise us. - John 14:21.
Come Lord Jesus!
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