Emotional Booty Call!!!

I was going to blog about my thanksgiving and how much fun I had but I have decided to shelve that for a couple of days. I was speaking to a friend last night and she brought up this topic and as she was talking it hit me that this is something I should actually blog about...So JAM (I know you are reading this...GET BACK TO WORK!) thanks for the inspiration ...LOL...I just discovered that a few of my close friends have discovered my blog (JAM happens to be one of those) ...shooooooot! Oh welll enjoyyyy! Let me warn you all oooo.. I still plan to deliver gist on here and if you act silly or give me reasons to write about you, I wont hesitate to put you and your drama on full blast! So don't think because you guys have discovered my blog I wont put you on blast... You know not to dare me...hah hahahahahahahahahaha (wink! wink!! Where are my eyes..LOL)

So emotional booty call... For some time now folks have taken the use of the words booty and call in the same sentence to mean the act of calling or contacting a person for the sole purpose of sex. To a certain degree I agree but I totally feel it goes deeper than this and with the little time I have, I'll like to take a somewhat deep dive into this topic...Hopefully some people will find this helpful.

I believe there are four types of emotional booty calls... Yup four types.... These calls have a way of affecting or changing your mood...Some come on those rainy days when you are feeling lonely and vulnerable, some come on those hot days when you just feel the need to vent, some come rain or shine without care for the weather or your situation... So let us delve deeeper !!!!

Booty call type 1

This is the popular version of booty call. One party (it could be either the guy or lady) picks up the phone and calls the other party with the sole purpose of having sex. I used to think this only happened with single folks but of late I have been told your status has nothing to do with it! Let me at this point clarify my stance... I believe it is wrong to have booty calls! But if you choose to participate in this, be clear as to what the terms and conditions of the contract are... A lot of folks get into this with the sole intention of just having sex with the other party and all of a sudden one party falls in "love" and becomes demanding... In the scheme of things, you are like a Temp worker...Temporary....So making demands aren't expected and should not be tolerated... Be very clear what you want prior to getting yourself involved in this type situation not After! Let me also make mention of this in the same breath...As you are giving of yourself to this person with no commitment, have it at the back of your mind that this person could so easily be sleeping around with other people ...AIDS /STD's aren't titles but rather diseases that could ultimately have a deadly impact on you and how much you can accomplish in life.

Booty call type 2

The main difference between type 2 and type 1 is the fact that type 2 isn't physical but still has emotional consequences. The status of the parties involved are similar to type 1 it involves folks that are married, engaged, courting/dating, seeing someone or single. Most times you find that the people involved in booty call type 2 dated sometime in the past. This type of booty call involves one party calling the other to talk about situations in their relationship in the hope that they'll find or get support from the other party. What baffles me about this is the fact that if this ex of yours was so on point in the first place why did you leave him/her? Ok you could argue that they broke up with you..So why do you think the best person to seek advice or support from is the one who rejected you? At no point should a man or woman in a relationship seek counsel from their ex in regards to their current relationship...Or talk to their ex in order to relieve tension within their relationship...I don't care how close you two were... My search on the word ex on Google provides me with this as a definition of an ex -In social relationships, an ex is someone with whom a person was once associated. It's totally unfair on both parties (i.e. the person you are in a relationship with and your ex)...Grow some conscience and quit being selfish!

Booty Call type 3

In the words of my blog mate Anthony, this type of booty call could also be referred to as "otapia pia" or "chop and clean mouth". The ladies are the main culprits and the guys in most cases are the victims... This type of booty call has become common of late...A woman would call a guy she has no interest in but whom she is aware likes her (a toaster or mugu). She only calls the dude when she's in need of something (coversation, excitement, etc) or needs to go somewhere here tiny purse can't afford to take her but her long-throat yearns to enter. The toaster or mugu (whichever the case maybe), under the impression that the babe is coming around, continually falls for the same trick (hmmm could this be why ladies that fall into this category are called "tricks"?), putting his heart and wallet into a dry-well that offers no hope of returns. It's amazing how time and time again you speak to the ladies and you try to explain this to them and they come up with the lousiest defense possible "Ah you never know... I am still confused...I just want to take one more look at him" if you are still confused then I doubt that expensive restaurant or meal will clear things up...If you need another look at him, meet up with him, show your face, see his face and leave! Women talk about the "pay back for all the years" factor...Listen to yourselves...Doesn't that sound retarded? Dude A hurts you or uses and dumps you and you feel the best way to get back at him is to use dude B? a guy whom from all indications could want the best for you? what relation does dude A have to dude B other than the fact they are classified as men?...I think some ladies need to re-think or lease a brain!

Booty call type 4

This goes out to the fellows... Guys, women have argued that the reason why booty call type 3 exists is because of you (booty call type 4 personalities). It's high time you allow your brain do the thinking for you and not your one-eye monster or one-eye pet. I think it's time as guys we become more sincere in terms of our intentions towards women. If the only reason you are interested in a lady is to bench-press her or satisfy your urge, kindly let the lady know...For all you know she might be in the same boat, which would clearly remove the both of you from whatever booty call type you presently occupy to type 1. I realize that some guys might argue that they got into the relationship with sincere and noble intentions and that has gone awry; there's still the need to remain true to your first goal... If you notice that after trying a few times to make things work, nothing seems to be changing, probably it's time to cut your losses... There's no point calling her up just to keep up appearances and satisfy the urgings of the kid in your boxers. How would you like it if a guy was using your sister as booty call? Realize that you will reap what you sow...Even if it doesn't come to you directly, the bible has shown that it could hit someone else in your family or a loved one. I truly think it's time we as men regain control of our one-eyed monster by bringing it under subjection. A man has no authority if he is unable to put in check his senses!

Conclusion

I realize how tough it is being single at the ripe age for marriage. I realize how depressing it can be attending all those weddings, being the bridesmaid but never the bride or being the grooms man but never the groom but I truly feel we accomplish a lot more when we are in the state of "singledom" and as such it's imperative we appreciate this stage in our lives and use it wisely. Regardless of what your beliefs are, you will never get back a day in your past and if for some crazy reason you are able to, it will never be the same ... So experience today for today, focus on those things that will help in making you a better person (physically, spiritually, career-wise & emotionally). Yes no doubt the luxury of a booty call brings about some level of satisfaction but if you think about it, that level of satisfaction is only temporal and though it might give you a high for a few days, the impact it could have on your life in the long term beats comparison... Everyday I meet great people in my case, I meet beautiful, intelligent women but somehow and somewhere along the line, you realize they all have a story just like I have a story...A story of hurt that has led to a lack of trust, story of desires that have led to insecurities, a story of passion that has led to a life without care. The master stroke from an artists brush once tampered with can never be restored to its original state; a few changes can be made and voila! it could still be a masterpiece though not the masterpiece it was originally intended to be but a masterpiece either way.

Note: I am not trying to lay blame on one sex over the other... I just feel there's a healthy medium we all could come to...I welcome your criticism, comments and observations.